Wowwwww, I don’t think I could’ve said it better myself. This young lady completely destroyed this whole poem; her passion, the points she hit, everything was amazing. I found myself going through a roller coaster of emotions, ranging from yelling “yasss”, to snapping my fingers, to clutching my pearls. Why? Because I grew up in a fatherless home myself, so I felt everything she said.
It was just me and my mom my entire life. Most of the time my father was in jail, because it seems like the criminal life was all he knew. And other times he was wherever he was, avoiding responsibilities, and having kids with multiple women (papa was a rolling stone); trust me he is a walking, talking stereotype. He grew up without without his father, so of course he never knew how to be one, so can I blame him? I feel like I can, because as an adult you can always decide to be just like your parents or to DO BETTER. He has 4 daughters by 4 different women, and from what I know he really isn’t doing his best with them either.
I always remember my mother saying “I am both mother and father”. It took me a long time to realize that it’s easier said than done. A mother CAN’T be BOTH. A child (boy or girl) will always need their father, just like they’d always need their mother. I really don’t know what the resolve is, but we have to realize that co-parenting is the key. Even if you’re not together, that child never asked to be here, so you both should be working as a TEAM to make sure your kids have everything they need. Fathers not taking responsibility for their kids has become quite the trend; too many boys/men that have no idea what they’re doing and refuse to go against the grain and become that strong male role model in their kids lives.
It’s a cycle and it needs to end!!