RED TABLE TALK: SEX

I must say, I like this FB series – I think it’s absolutely amazing to see women from 3 different generations give their own thoughts and perspectives on certain topics.  I love me some Jada (I always have) and to be honest I like her mom and Willow as well.  Like how can you NOT like anyone from the Smith family?  They just seem so fun and real.

I’ve pretty much seen all episodes so far, but this one, was so refreshing because I realized that I only thought one way about sex.  I would have LOVED to talk to my mom about sex at a young age, but I think she thought a lot like gam gam (a.k.a Jada’s mom) – you never really want to know that your child is having sex.  So you try to inform your daughter that she should be in love in order to have sex, or that she just shouldn’t have it at all, etc etc.  But to be honest that’s just not healthy.

Sex should be discussed openly in any household because it’s life.  Why deprive your child from knowledge about a subject that they have no way around?  Sex is inevitable, it will happen, and if you don’t get in front of it and discuss it with your kids, then they start to learn from pornography which isn’t a realistic source.

I’m not too sure how I feel about Jada’s grandmother teaching her at the age of 9 to pleasure herself, that sounds a little weird to me, but hey, I won’t judge.  When she admitted that at the table she said she was proud that her grandmother did that because (as she got older) she knew how to get pleasure from herself, NOT JUST from a man.  She knows so many women that are in their 30’s and 40’s and have YET to have an orgasm.  They either don’t know how to satisfy themselves nor do their men, which is more common than people are willingly to admit.

I think when I have kids I’ll talk to them about sex around the age of 8 or 9, that seems like a good age.  I’d rather them hear it from me, and be comfortable to talk about it, than listen to their friends or watch porn.

What age did you all talk to your kids about sex and/or pleasure? If you haven’t yet what age do you think you will?

 

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5 thoughts on “RED TABLE TALK: SEX

  1. I plan to do the same. My mom got a lot of things right, but the invisible sex talk wasn’t one of them. I’m sure I won’t be the only source or influence, but it’s important to be open and honest with your children. They deserve it!

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    1. I totally agree, they are definitely going to reach out to other sources because kids are really curious, but i want them to know that they can come and talk to me about whatever in that department

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  2. You said it simply and it is true, totally agreed!… “I think when I have kids I’ll talk to them about sex around the age of 8 or 9, that seems like a good age.  I’d rather them hear it from me, and be comfortable to talk about it, than listen to their friends or watch porn.”

    If you fail to give awarnesss, means somewhere you are contributing in their wrong direction in Life, it is 100% important in the society to give awarnesss rather than discarding sex or abusing it.. whenever it is suppressed it take human on wrong path..

    Great article..✍

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    1. yesssssssssssssss to that whole paragraph. I cant say that i will be a perfect parent, but i want to try my best to steer them in the right direction and be open and honest to whatever questions they may have. You have to, that’s part of the journey ya know
      Thanks so much for reading, I appreciate it 🙂

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