I must say, I like this FB series – I think it’s absolutely amazing to see women from 3 different generations give their own thoughts and perspectives on certain topics. I love me some Jada (I always have) and to be honest I like her mom and Willow as well. Like how can you NOT like anyone from the Smith family? They just seem so fun and real.
I’ve pretty much seen all episodes so far, but this one, was so refreshing because I realized that I only thought one way about sex. I would have LOVED to talk to my mom about sex at a young age, but I think she thought a lot like gam gam (a.k.a Jada’s mom) – you never really want to know that your child is having sex. So you try to inform your daughter that she should be in love in order to have sex, or that she just shouldn’t have it at all, etc etc. But to be honest that’s just not healthy.
Sex should be discussed openly in any household because it’s life. Why deprive your child from knowledge about a subject that they have no way around? Sex is inevitable, it will happen, and if you don’t get in front of it and discuss it with your kids, then they start to learn from pornography which isn’t a realistic source.
I’m not too sure how I feel about Jada’s grandmother teaching her at the age of 9 to pleasure herself, that sounds a little weird to me, but hey, I won’t judge. When she admitted that at the table she said she was proud that her grandmother did that because (as she got older) she knew how to get pleasure from herself, NOT JUST from a man. She knows so many women that are in their 30’s and 40’s and have YET to have an orgasm. They either don’t know how to satisfy themselves nor do their men, which is more common than people are willingly to admit.
I think when I have kids I’ll talk to them about sex around the age of 8 or 9, that seems like a good age. I’d rather them hear it from me, and be comfortable to talk about it, than listen to their friends or watch porn.
What age did you all talk to your kids about sex and/or pleasure? If you haven’t yet what age do you think you will?
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