If there’s one saying I HATE to hear its:”keep it in the family”. I can’t speak for any other communities but in the black, brown, and hispanic community, this is law, no questions asked. It’s extremely toxic, unstable, confusing and detrimental to whoever the victim is. And forget about being in a Christian household, anything that happens to you, will be done in the guise of their faith and put under the category of “God will get us through this”, rather than addressing said problem and finding solutions.
“If you’re a Christian reading this, the Bible clearly instructs us to “confess and be healed” (James 5:16). Confessing—bringing things out into the open—brings forth healing. Shoot, even if you’re not a bible believer, there is NOTHING healthy, logical, or beneficial about enduring abuse from a family member in silence. All it does is give the victimizer the power to keep harming you (and probably others) over and over again. (It also ups the chances of you hurting others too because sometimes “hurt people hurt people”. I saw this quote from another blogger named Necole – article found here
“Break the curse. Don’t be the curse. That’s a motto that I unapologetically live by”
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